empowering choice

Our Work

"Horses reveal the inside of man." - Randy Simmons

 Cor Lifemanship is about empowering the brokenhearted with choices. Choices that will put them on the courageous path of rebuilding their lives and living and loving from a place of wholeheartedness. We use horses to facilitate this journey. It is our belief that we are all hardwired for connection and it is only through presenting our authentic, imperfect selves to the world that we are able to come truly alive, genuinely connect and then go on to live from a place of purpose. Having the ability to make choices empowers us as humans. Our creator gave man the unique gift of choice. Other species do not have the ability to make a wide range of choices in their lives. They are led by instinct or impulses that are geared toward survival. Man can choose where to live, what to wear, what to eat and whom he wants relationship with. We make a wide range of choices everyday concerning our lives and sometimes the lives of others. It is our belief the more wholehearted a person is, the more range of choices we have and the healthier choices we will make for ourselves and others. Wholehearted means being in possession of your whole heart. Being fully alive to the range of emotions, desires, feelings and passion we have as humans. Unfortunately most of us have been wounded or experienced trauma which dull or even kill parts of our hearts. We live on auto-pilot skimming over huge parts of our lives. Not recognizing that we have shut down. We develop ruts of living that keep us more in survival mode like animals. Experiencing a lifeless, passionless, meaningless existence that cultivates depression and despair. We become robotic. Making the same choices over and over again even though those choices prove to drain the life out of us. We choose the same kind of people to have relationship with over and over again. Usually ending the same way the last one did. Yet our hearts cry out for more and different, we feel stuck doing the same thing over and over again. Getting the same ugly painful results again and again. The good news is there is a way off that merry-go-round. Call or write us at Cor Lifemanship to schedule a consultation. Horses are very sensitive and respond to our underlying, and often times, hidden emotions and motives and, hence, our outward behavioral incongruences. Horses don’t pretend or lie. They don’t live in the past or the future. They are firmly planted in the here-and-now. This sensitivity provides immediate feedback creating a unique environment to both expose our current ways of being in relationship as well as practice new and healthier ways of being in relationship. Being prey animals, horses naturally respond from a fight, flight or freeze stance (survival instinct). This could be said of humans who have experienced trauma. Many people would not categorize much of life’s experiences as trauma; however, much of what we live through affects us in the same way. Broken relationships, losing your job, chronic stress, living in a state of shame, etc. Using horse training principles, we create an environment for the horse to begin building trust and safety in our relationship in order for him to begin to respond from the thinking part of his brain rather than reacting from his survival instinct. These same sets of principles are used to move an individual from an impulsive and reactionary stance to a controlled, thinking and planning stance. These traits make for a beautiful classroom for the client to explore how they function in relationship, and it provides an opportunity for the client to take ownership for his/her actions. Sadly, much of our society lives and operates from a victim mentality. This creates people looking outside themselves for why something worked or did not work and casting blame instead of taking ownership. Working with horses have taught us that one’s actions cause another’s reactions, and by changing the way we function within the relationship, we can bring about different results.  MANIFESTO OF THE BRAVE AND BROKENHEARTED There is no greater threat to the critics and cynics and fearmongers Than those of us who are willing to fall Because we have learned how to rise. With skinned knees and bruised hearts; We choose owning our stories of struggle, Over hiding, over hustling, over pretending. When we deny our stories, they define us. When we run from struggle, we are never free. So we turn toward truth and look it in the eye. We will not be characters in our stories. Not villains, not victims, not even heroes. We are the authors of our lives. We write our own daring endings. We craft love from heartbreak, Compassion from shame, Grace from disappointment, Courage from failure. Showing up is our power. Story is our way home. Truth is our song. We are the brave and brokenhearted. We are rising strong. -Brené Brown After giving much time and attention to working on our mission statement, we determined we couldn’t say it any better than Brené Brown. We are forever indebted to her for all the years of research and work she has developed from that research. Thank you Brené! Why horses? Our Manifesto
About Cor Lifemanship

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Malinda Harton, M.A.

Licensed Professional Counselor and Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor

Email: Malinda@CorLifemanship.com

C: 281.731.3416

 

Randy Simmons

Equine Professional

Email: Randy@CorLifemanship.com

C: 830.377.1923